How To Create A Winning Attitude !

Self Motivation: How to Motivate Yourself…

People who are unable to motivate themselves must be content with mediocrity, no matter how impressive their other talents.

Never give up no matter what ever happens to you !

If you want to excel in life, self motivation is essential. You must know how to motivate yourself. You must be able to keep your spirit high no matter how discouraging a situation is. That’s the only way to get the power you need to overcome difficulties. Those who are discouraged in difficult times are certain to lose even before the battle is over.

The question is: how do you motivate yourself? Here are several tips I’ve
found to be effective to build self motivation:

1. Have a cause

I can’t think of a more powerful source of motivation than a cause you care about. Such cause can inspire you to give your best even in the face of difficulties. It can make you do the seemingly impossible things.

While other causes could inspire you temporarily, a cause that matters to you can inspire you indefinitely. It’s a spring of motivation that will never dry. Whenever you think that you run out of motivation, you can always come to your cause to get a fresh dose of motivation.

2. Have a dream. A big dream.

“Only as high as I reach can I grow, only as far as I seek can I go, only as deep as I look can I see, only as much as I dream can I be.”

Your cause is a powerful source of motivation but it’s still abstract in nature. You need to make it concrete in the form of a dream. Imagine how the world will be in the future. Imagine how people will live and work.

Having a dream is important because it’s difficult to be motivated if you don’t have anything to shoot for. Just think about people who play basketball. Will they be motivated to play if there is no basket to aim at? I don’t think so. They need a goal. You need a goal. That’s what your dream is for.

But just having a dream is insufficient. Your dream must be big enough to inspire you. It must be realistic but challenging. It must stretch your ability beyond your comfort zone.

3. Be hungry

“Wanting something is not enough. You must hunger for it. Your motivation must be absolutely compelling in order to overcome the obstacles that will invariably come your way.”

To be truly motivated, you need to have hunger and not just desire. Having mere desire won’t take you through difficult times since you don’t want things badly enough. In many cases, hunger makes the difference between the best performers and the mediocre ones.

How can you have hunger? Your cause and your dream play a big role here. If you have a cause you care about and a big dream related to it, you should have the hunger inside of you. If you think that you are losing hunger, all you need to do is to connect again to your cause and dream. Let them inspire you and bring the hunger back.

4. Run your own race

“I do not try to dance better than anyone else. I only try to dance better than myself.”

Comparing yourself with others is an effective way to demotivate yourself. Even if you start with enthusiasm, you will soon lose your energy when you compare yourself with others.

Don’t let that happen to you. You have your own race so how other people perform is irrelevant. Comparing yourself with others is like comparing the performance of a swimmer with a runner using the same time standard. They are different so how can you compare one with the other?

The only competitor you have is yourself. The only one you need to beat is you. Have you become the best you can be?

5. Take one more step

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”

When you meet obstacles along the way, there could be the tendency to quit. You may think that it’s too difficult to move on. You may think that your dream is impossible to achieve. But this is where you can see the difference between winners and losers. Though both of them face the same difficulties, there is one thing that makes the winners different: the courage to continue.

In difficult situations, just focus on taking one more step forward. Don’t think about how to complete the race. Don’t think about how many more obstacles are waiting for you. Just focus on taking the next step.

6. Let go of the past

“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could.”

Believe it or not, one of the best demotivators is your past. Your past can drag you down before you realize it. Your past can give you a heavy burden on your shoulders.

The good news is it’s a burden you don’t have to carry. Take it off your shoulder and leave it. You might make mistakes in the past. You might disappoint others with what you did. But it’s over. It’s already in the past and there’s nothing you can do about it.

Today is a new day and you have the chance to start again. No matter how bad your past might be, you still have a bright future ahead waiting for you. Just don’t let the burden of the past stop you.

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Apply these tips and motivate yourself. Don’t settle for mediocrity. Let your self motivation take you to excellence.

Do I Think Or Worry !

Think or Worry?

It was once said, “You are what you think”.

You can think about your problems or you can worry about them, and there is a vast difference between the two.

Worry is thinking that has turned toxic. It is jarring music that goes round and round and never comes to either climax or conclusion.

Thinking works its way through problems to conclusions and decisions; worry leaves you in a state of tensely suspended animation.

When you worry, you go over the same ground endlessly and come out the same place you started. Thinking makes progress from one place to another; worry remains static.

The problem of life is to change worry into thinking and anxiety into creative action.

The influence Of Self Observation !

“To be aware of a single shortcoming within oneself is more useful than to be aware of a thousand in somebody else…”

Why is self observation so important to the exercise of your intelligence? Because much of what gets in the way of thinking effectively and powerfully is not a lack of ability or brainpower, but the interference of ones own reactive mind. Let’s look at some examples.

Vishnu opens up a book about moral philosophy, and he is excited to read it. But what has him excited is not exactly the prospect of discovering new ideas. What he’s really looking forward to is the confirmation of his own beliefs, and the discovery of new arguments to defend them and push them onto others.

This is common, of course. Many of us buy books that are based on ideas we already agree with after all, don’t we? Capitalists buy books about the virtues of free markets, creationists buy books about the flaws in evolutionary theory, and environmentalists buy books about the damage we’re causing to the planet. By itself, this tendency is not harmful, and certainly not surprising. It limits our thinking, though, when we do not recognize it in ourselves and therefore don’t make allowance for the bias it creates.

This isn’t just about books, of course. In fact, we “buy” ideas all the time from the intellectual environment around us. We “pay” for these ideas by investing our time and thought and ego into them. But we don’t see how often we are only interested in those that fit our existing way of thinking. And because of that lack of awareness resulting from a lack of self observation, we pass over facts and ideas that may lead to a better understanding.

Seeing Our Own Biases

Suppose a man has a strong belief that “a person is responsible for his or her actions.” As a result of this and his accompanying philosophy, he not only dismisses certain ideas, but finds them offensive. For example, when he hears about a study showing that most criminals have a deficiency of copper in their bodies, he is annoyed and assumes it is an attack on the idea of personal responsibility. “They’re just helping people excuse their bad behavior,” he says.

Now, if he’s not in the habit of self observation, he won’t notice that this isn’t reasoning, but a reaction. It may even seem perfectly clear to him that such science is dangerous and ill-intentioned. On the other hand, what if he does watch himself, and catches the reactive nature of his thinking? Then he can question what he believes, or find a way to fit new facts into his thinking.

With this and other scientific information about the physical and psychological “causes” of behavior, he might come to a better understanding. He might even decide that people generally aren’t responsible for their actions, but that they can be if they so choose. Upon having this thought, he might notice that his reactive mind is saying, “but we have to hold them responsible or people will all be criminals.” This, he sees, is the fear that supports his prior belief. Upon seeing that, he can think, “no, they just have to be locked up if they are dangerous to others – that doesn’t require a belief in personal guilt” nor suggest that others will become criminals if we don’t call them “sinners.”

That is one possibility. The other is that upon seeing that there are things which encourage people to commit crimes, he still believes that people are responsible for their actions, but now recognizes that context is not irrelevant. We’re all weaker at points in time after all, for all sorts of reasons, and recognizing this isn’t a denial of responsibility for our actions. Perhaps correcting nutritional deficiencies, treating psychological problems and providing a better environment for people will lead to many less of them choosing to do bad things.

However he changes his thinking or broadens his understanding, it happens because of self observation. The resulting self awareness lets him see his biases and work past them.

This isn’t just about philosophical examples like those given, either. Simple pride about ones theory in biology, economics or family life can blind one to better ideas if it is not recognized as a limiting force. Being afraid to admit ignorance is another mind-killer. There all sorts of other things going on inside us too. One’s own unconscious mind throws many obstacles in the path of clear thought, and self observation is what allows us to clear the way for better brainpower.

The Worst Bad Habit !

You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.

- Buckminster Fuller
 

Probably all of us have this bad habit to some extent, and I am nominating it for the worst habit one can have. What is it? It is our tendency to fight reality rather than accept and deal with things the way they are. I’ll give some examples and a few suggestions as to how to overcome it.

Fighting Reality

It is a subtle habit, expressing itself in everything from blaming others for our problems to getting angry at traffic. How to know when you are fighting reality? Here are some clues.
First, consider how rarely you complain, or are angry or annoyed because rocks are hard and water is wet. This easy acceptance of the facts of nature is due to your clearly seeing that this is simply the way it is. You don’t have ideas that rocks should be soft or water dry. In the complexity of modern life, however, we do have ideas about how things “should be.” This is the beginning of our fight against reality.

This is not to say that you can’t work to make the world a better place, but you don’t need to deny or fight reality to do that. In my initial career as a beginner I failed at times in achieving my goals as I planned and now realized it was because I dealt poorly with these things and used them as excuses for not doing all that I had to do to succeed but few might also accept that things are how they are, and we have to deal with it.

Blaming is a great way to excuse ourselves from taking responsibility, and one of the subtle ways of fighting reality. Recognizing the role of outside factors and other people in our problems is just honesty, but focusing more on assigning blame than on our own choices of how to deal with the problems is just a bad habit. It is like a child screaming “I don’t want it this way!” as though that will change reality. It just isn’t very productive, as you may notice in friends who find many things and people to blame in their lives.

Overcoming A Bad Habit

You can blame the person who chooses to be cruel to you, but you are also to blame if you choose to be abused repeatedly by spending time with this person. It is almost like sticking your hand in a fire repeatedly, hoping it will one day stop being hot. Almost, I say, because a person CAN change. How often do they, though? You have to be realistic here, or you are fighting reality as surely as when you put your hand into a fire.

You can wait for your “ship to come in,” or you can face the fact that people create most of the “luck” that they have in life, and start working toward your goals. You can work for political change or just complain and wish things were different. You can watch people succeed and talk about the “reasons” for your failures or procrastination, or you can see what they are doing to succeed and try that.

We have to see the truth, but to really want to see it we may need to look at the futility of fighting reality. Who is more likely to be happy in this world, the man who demands that it should be the way he wants it, or the one that accepts things as they are, changes what he can, and does what he needs to do? Who will more likely succeed, the man who knows how things “should be,” or the one who sees only what is there and deals with it?
Need motivation to change? Watch complainers and blamers and those who say “should” and “shouldn’t” too often. If you watch closely, you’ll see how they suffer for their demands on reality. It is the bad habit, upon which many other bad habits are based, and it is one of the worst, but it can be broken.

You Are The Creator Of Your Own Destiny!

“Stand up, be bold, be strong. Take the whole responsibility on your own shoulders, and know that you are the creator of your own destiny. All the strength and succor you want is within yourselves. Therefore, make your own future.” ~ Vivekananda

Every thought of a human being is transformed as picture in everybody’s mind.

The picture transformed into your mind will be depending upon your thought. If your thought is about success, the picture transformed into your mind, will be as if you are getting success. If your thought is failure, then the picture transformed into your mind will be as if you are getting failure.

Never think or doubt, when you begin with something that it will end in failure. If you think so, then that thought or doubt will be transformed as a ‘failure’ picture in your mind and your sub-conscious mind will direct your action according to that ‘failure picture’, which naturally your action will end in failure.

On the other hand, if you think on the other side, the thing will end in success, your thought will be transformed into the picture of success, and automatically your subconscious mind will direct the result to end in success. It is the secret of nature.

Because you can yield only what you plant.
Planting of paddy yield only paddy and not wheat.
Planting of success in your mind only yield success and not failure.

Thoughts, picture, and action all have close interaction with each other. They cannot differ and distract at anytime.

For example, if you want to have your own house, think deeply about your dream house as if you have purchased a beautiful house.

Naturally your dream house will be transformed into as a picture in your mind. Your sub-conscious mind will direct you to convert that dream house into a real house. It will create circumstances and opportunities for you to convert that dream house into a real house out of your own resources.

One single thought leads to many thoughts. If you want to be rich you should constantly think of having huge money. That one thought leads to many thoughts like huge bank balance, having beautiful house, variety of cars, beautiful ornaments, all modern amenities, huge play ground, beautiful swimming pool in your house, and still many more thoughts.

Such a positive single thought is having a power to create so many positive thoughts.
Similarly it is not wonder that one single negative thought will also create so many negative thoughts.

So negative thoughts are also having equal power like positive thoughts power.
You cannot underestimate the power of negative thoughts.

Always think good, think positively.

Never let your mind to think negatively and practice to think positively, then every thing will happen in favor of you, it would pave the way for you to create your own destiny.

Living Purpose

Our Life Path Eventually Reveals And Leads Us To Our True Life Purpose..! “Having a purpose is the difference between making a living and making a life.”

At times I used to think that I have not done anything worthwhile so far this thought used to come when I saw and read about couple of successful players ;business men; professionals; spiritual leaders and world acclaimed celebrities and always wondered what purpose I am living… over the period I realized …..The true purpose of living a life…which I would like to share with the people who think as I used to do !!!

The purpose is not to fear or to frighten. The purpose is not to control or to be controlled.
The purpose is to live, to love and to experience life in a way that is uniquely yours.
The purpose is to be open to the newness and reality of every moment, giving joy a living expression.
The purpose is to give the miracle of life a distinct voice.

It is to know and to treasure moments of pure beauty for which there are no words.

The challenges may be profound, and yet they cannot challenge or diminish your purpose.
On the contrary, those challenges help us to understand and express our purpose more clearly.

The world can at times distract us into caring about mere shadows of life that have no real meaning.
Yet always, beneath the surface, your living purpose is there.

Remember that purpose, and let its value flow freely from you with each thought, feeling and action.
Live from your purpose and be fully alive.

Learning From Mistakes….. !!

“It is the highest form of self-respect to admit our errors and mistakes and make amends for them. To make a mistake is only an error in judgment, but to adhere to it when it is discovered shows infirmity of character.”

Don’t worry about making mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes. Why should you be different? The person who never made a mistake, never made anything. Mistakes can be costly. They can also be educational. Look upon your mistakes as an asset. Life is a learning process. Learn from your mistakes. Profit from them and you will not only make more money, you will also become a better person. You must face the fact that from time to time makes the odd mistake. As long as they are not life threatening, pick yourself up, dust yourself down and get on with your life. Just remember to not make the same mistake twice. As I said before, “Learn from your mistakes.” Better still; learn from other people’s mistakes.

There are people out there who have become millionaires working in different fields and business ventures. Do you think they never made mistakes? They are only too willing to admit to their mistakes and to explain how they resolved them. If you want to get to the top, and I presume that you do, study those who have already made it to the top. Study the way that they did it. Copy the methods of successful people. They will not be too proud to explain the problems they encountered on the way. Problems that you will surely meet as you progress and gain experience.

Disregard the ‘overnight gurus’ trying to sell you the latest get rich scheme. If you listen to them you will be making the biggest mistake of all.

The old adage’ Learn to walk before you try to run.’ Holds good in any type of business venture or in our career. Good advice is there for the taking. Don’t disregard it just because it is free. Some of the very best things in life are free.

Just make sure that you take full advantage of them.

Relax, nothing is so bad that it can’t be fixed.

Here’s to your great success.

About Motivational Thoughts And Self Motivation

Motivational thoughts help you take action. I’m not talking about positive thinking or repeating motivating quotes. These have their place in shaping your attitude and thinking, but what motivates each of us is unique. You need to have your own thoughts – those which are most effective at getting you going.

“In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity” – Albert Einstein

The above quote is a good one, and it may well help you look at the positive side of a situation, but what if it just doesn’t get you excited? In that case, you need to apply a little brainpower and make the idea your own. You need to make it a truly motivational thought for YOU.

Your Own Motivational Thoughts

What does “making it your own” mean? It means experimenting with a good thought until you find a way to use it in your own recipe for motivation. For example, suppose you are in a difficult situation and you just don’t feel like dealing with it. Then you play around with the idea of opportunity coming from difficulty, and you discover that it pulls you out of your slump to think about yourself in the future, explaining to a friend how you turned the difficult situation to your advantage.

That is making it your own motivational thought. Of course, it might be more motivating to imagine yourself being interviewed someday about how you overcame this difficult time. Whatever kind of thinking works for you is what you should be doing like sometimes self motivation works….!!

Self Motivation

Experiment and see what works. For myself, I find that more than just thinking a thought, if I explain it to someone, I get excited. This is my own recipe. If I feel unmotivated about the approach for a work, for example, all I have to do is explain an idea I have for the work to my Mother. By the time I have done that, I am very motivated to work.

Get creative in your motivational experiments. If thinking about being poor makes you get up and get to work, then that is a great motivational thought. If a visual thought is more motivating than a mental conversation, then use that. See a picture in your head that gets you going. If when people say you can’t do something, you do whatever it takes to prove them wrong, then think about them saying you can’t.

If you have a truly uninspiring task you have to do, try promising yourself some reward for completion that means something to you. Hold that thought in your mind to keep you motivated. A bowl of ice cream or a trip to the beach may be more powerful motivational thoughts than any famous quotes.

Stones of Life !

“There is nothing permanent except change.”

Recently , I had went through a elbow injury and had stayed back home for medical reasons, and was thinking as to why I have been haunted with several problems over the years and every time there is some change in life with these problems. And when I questioned someone close to me who is a guide and a philosopher that why life through so many problems jut into my teen my father demised and since then I have been facing problems one after another, listening to all I said he gave he gave me a stone and asked me have you ever seen or found a river stone that was perfectly smooth? Did the stone start out this way, or did it change over time? To most of us, the answer is obvious. Over time, the forces of the river current changed the river stone.

And from that thought when I see the same in life, like the river stone, forces in our lives are constant and never ending causing changes whether we like it or not. The important question for all of us though is how do we respond to change?

Many of us, have to work to support ourselves, or our family. But, does change is the work environment, or changes in our lives go unnoticed, or is of little concern?

Take our working environment in particular. No longer can we rely on past experience to gives us a safety net. No longer can we count on seniority to guarantee us a job. Nor, can we count on the company we work for either being bought out or going out of business entirely.

Let’s be honest. You can resist change but it’s going to happen anyway. Ask yourself, what are your chances of surviving if you continue to resist change?

Change is hardly new to our society. Just look at your daily newspaper, or T.V. newscast, or Internet stories. Change is everywhere. It has been a constant companion for as long as people have roamed the earth. The most important and significant aspect about change is that it has accelerated over the last couple of decades due to technological advances, and a more global society.

In order to benefit from change we need to focus more on the advantages rather than the negative. Remember, change is going to happen anyway; wouldn’t it be better to be part of it rather than a fallout statistic because of it. If you find yourself resisting a new process, a new strategy, a new way of doing business, a good question to ask yourself is why the change is necessary. It is easier to adapt to change when you understand the reasons the change is required.

Taking the inevitability of change one step further, it is vitally important to keep expanding your knowledge, and to upgrade your skills, or learn a new skill. Don’t wait for someone else to suggest upgrading, or enrolling in a specialized course. If you wait, you may never get the opportunity because others may have already completed what you should have done. Sometimes, it will make the difference from keeping your job to having no job at all.

Change, adapt, and continue to learn. Change will affect you one way or the other, just like change happened to the river-stone.

Self-Confidence: Believe In Yourself

Your accomplishments will give you satisfaction and enhance your self-confidence. A person with a strong sense of self-confidence is happier with their life because they believe in themselves!

There is no man living who isn’t capable of doing more
than he thinks he can do.
Henry Ford

A story I read and surely it would make you think and boost your self confidence !

There was a rat who lost his self confidence, and all he wanted was to die because he feels so weak, and no one likes or respects him…

So he sat down one day and was talking to God…

He asked God: why nobody likes me, I am so weak and I don’t want to live anymore…
And God replies: you are the strongest in this world little rat…

So the rat asked him: but how?

Then God said: you are stronger then the night…

The rat said again: can you explain for me please?

God said : because when the sun rises the night disappears… and you are stronger than the sun…
But how asked the rat?

God said: because when it is cloudy the sun disappears… and you are stronger than the cloud…

The rat said: I’m not understanding…

God said: because when the wind blows the clouds move and disappear, and you are stronger than the wind…

The rat did not understand the logic behind this so he asked again: how?

God said: because when the wind blows, it cannot move the tower that is behind you… but you can do so…

The rat looked at the great tower behind him and asked again: tell me more God, how does this make me strong?

God said: nor the sun or the wind, nor the clouds or the night can make this tower disappear,
but you my little rat you can… by simply digging in each stone, you can crack them and make it collapse… (story from a Christian newspaper)

You think that you are awful… that no body respects you… that you are weak…

I tell you that the power is inside you… that everyone is weak when he doesn’t see anything but weakness, but very strong when he accepts himself, when he understands himself…
Stand up and say no to what is destroying you… say I’m not fearful, I will continue sailing… and i will arrive…